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Sunday, July 19th, 2020
12:40 pm

Friends Mostly.

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Monday, October 26th, 2009
11:38 am - Writer's Block: Yes, offense taken
If a friend or relative makes a racist or homophobic remark, do you tend to confront them or let it slide? Are you more likely to confront them if it offends you directly or someone else who seems reluctant to speak up?


It depends. It's difficult for me to itemize scenarios, but that's the only way I could be able to break down what I find appropriate and what I find offensive. That said, let it be known that this opinion comes from a half-hispanic bisexual female in a lesbian relationship.

In most cases, I need to know someone's intentions before I can pass judgement. For instance, if someone makes a lighthearted remark about my sexuality or my ethnicity, it's completely fine as long as I can be sure that their beliefs don't align with their words. I would laugh along with them.

The opposite would be a clearly disparaging remark. The most common I get is the classic,"Your hair makes you look like a lesbian." This infuriates me. Not only does it seem acceptable to most people, but it betrays in them a lingering stereotype that hinders not only lesbians, but women. The stereotype that lesbians and any woman with short hair and jeans on has a bad sense of style because they are too lazy, uncouth and stubborn to invest in their appearance. Appearance is a personal choice that often has little or nothing to do with personality traits. A short haircut does not mean you are lazy, uncouth, stubborn, unfashionable, suffering from penis envy, or anything else. I've gotten this remark from my parents and from friends, and every time I've let them know in some way that I'm offended when they say it and pointedly grimace at the word 'lesbian'.

This is just one example where I take things more seriously - there aren't many more. I think the gay community has learned to let ribald humor roll off their backs better than many ethnic groups. I'm not sure what this results in, but it can certainly help discriminated people voice their feelings without falling into pointless rages. It can also make it seem like "no big deal".

I'll stop rambling and move on to the other question. I'm a big advocate of "tough love". If I'm in a situation where someone is slightly offended but I am not, I'm more likely to guide the conversation towards them and give them the chance to speak out rather than speak for them. Part of overcoming discrimination is for everyone to earn their own voice - they can't shut us all up.

Everyone should always feel safe expressing their divergent opinions or sentiments. No one should be afraid of ridicule or violence. Obviously, there are some situations where one must walk away, but if you're among friends - real friends - why not let them know how you feel?

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Sunday, April 12th, 2009
11:33 pm - Bye bye, Amazon.
Read this if you haven't already.

Then go cancel your Amazon account like me and at least 4 of my friends did within the past 20 minutes.

current mood: shitstorm

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Wednesday, May 14th, 2008
11:41 pm - back luck part 7489302
Okay, as some of you may know, I've had this phobia (to the point where I can't stand seeing or hearing the name of) a certain organ - they're on your sides, you have two, and they are involved in making pee...pretty much forever, for no reason.

And I've been having this pain in my right side off and on since this winter...

AND AS LUCK WOULD HAVE IT, my doctor thinks it might be a stone or infection. I feel so sick. Ugh.

And yeah, RP availability might suffer. But when doesn't it? =_=

P.S. DO NOT MAKE REPLIES TO THIS POST INCLUDING HORROR STORIES OR THE NAME OF THE ORGAN IN QUESTION. TY.

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Tuesday, December 19th, 2006
12:35 am - Posting from The Den of Lesbos (aka home for the holidays)
Entertainment:
3 books
Sketchbook
Internet
PS2 (w/ Guitar Hero 2)

Duration: Dec. 19 - Jan. 5 (est.)

If anybody's out there... Now is the time.

TO IM ME.

current mood: so ronery

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Tuesday, July 18th, 2006
8:07 pm
I AM O-FUCKING-KAY.

Just full of anxiety and fail.

But physically, fine.

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Monday, June 26th, 2006
4:12 am - SELLING MY SHIT ON THE INTERNET! 8D
First on the block: my manga collection. All 44 embarassing volumes of it, after the cut.Collapse )

Plz show this to your friends, blabla! Sorry for spamming y'all's flists! :X

current mood: not a weeaboo anymore lol

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Monday, April 24th, 2006
2:11 am
lol uhh...

I need to sleep now.
Then I need to get up, and do a few more sketches for my art project.
Then I need to call my dad and made him take me to the art store to get a 22x30 piece of paper.
Then I need to go to art class.

Then I might get some sleep, but probably not, because my portfolio and my final project are due on Wednesday.
So yeah...no sleep until Wednesday night, probably. And on Tuesday I'll have to meet with my scene partner for acting.

Then I have to go to class, turn my shit in, come home, and pass out.

And on Thursday, I have to study for my hueg psych final.
And work on my script and my horribleness.
And then sleep a little.

Then, on Friday, I have to get up early (like, 7:45am), go do my scene and my Frank-N-Furter impression.
And then I have 15 minutes to walk across campus to get to my psych final.
And once that's done, I'm FREE.

current mood: lol sleep

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Thursday, March 30th, 2006
7:47 pm - TrustFlow results for gloombox
lol i don't get this shit. D8

I tried out TrustFlow II for LiveJournal. The following people not on the friends list for gloombox are close by: More results below the cut...Collapse )

Created by ciphergoth; hosted by LShift.

TrustFlow II: Who is closest to your friends list?

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7:02 pm - shit.
Wow. I am so, so irritable lately. :|

Sorry to anyone I have (or will) bitched at/emo'd at/snapped at.

But I scanned and uploaded 6 drawrings to devart today, so all is not lost, I guess.
( http://gloombox.deviantart.com/scraps/ <-- if you wanna look :/ )

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Thursday, December 29th, 2005
11:43 am - xvcvhbnkhjnmk,v.
i just closed my eyes for three hours without falling asleep. after being awake for...35 hours. and not eating in nearly as long.

...fuck.


current mood: sore.

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Saturday, December 3rd, 2005
4:08 am - GRRARGH.
SKELETOR, YOU MADE ME DO SOME COKE.

I'M UP ALL NIGHT AND IT'S NO JOKE. D8


current mood: sdfghjk awake

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Wednesday, September 28th, 2005
6:21 pm - uhh...
i'm home, by the way. and muy tired. +_+

current mood: +_+

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Tuesday, September 20th, 2005
8:03 pm - more boring shit
stuff to pack:

-6 Outfits (including undies, hosiery, jacket)
-Pajamas (3-4 sets)
-Shoes (black pair, white strappy pair, flipflops, etc)

-Makeup (foundation, powder, mascara, lipstick, gloss, liner, shadesticks, tools)
-Toiletries (razor, toothbrush, toothpaste, shampoo, conditioner, facewash, deodorant)
-Jewelry (everything i can fit in bag/on person)
-Computer, powerchord, phone charger, iPod cable
-Backup lighter/cigarettes
-Doll

stuff to do:

-ask shoji where i need to be taken
-do nails
-do teeth
-uhh..pack.

-shower
-sleep
-eat


current mood: =\

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Friday, September 16th, 2005
2:12 am - things of suckitude.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/arts/1371135.stm
(On Narnia, and some 'rewrite' bullshit the publishing company is pulling. Yeah. Rewrite.)

W. T. F.

Integrity? Honor? I'm not seeing any. >/

Please pass this around so more people can be angry and, hopefully, prevent this bullshit from happening.

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Saturday, August 13th, 2005
1:39 am - zomg, elle DID something!
yes, she drew a picture. and painted it too. :0!!!

http://www.deviantart.com/view/21688823/

but wtf, it's like t3h animez0rz. :d;;;

current mood: hand cramp

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Wednesday, July 6th, 2005
2:57 am - Eastern Religion (with Faith and Elle)
zuberkock (2:27:28 AM): Mmhm. I think every religion is like that. Some will take it on a broad scope, oftentimes making assumptions for the sake of comfort, and some will take what they need from it, and become a better person.
zuberkock (2:29:48 AM): Like, buddhism, one most societies, is very impure. In China it's infringed upon by Taoism and Confucianism, in India by Hinduism, in Japan by Shinto and Confucius and Tao, and so on.
zuberkock (2:30:07 AM): Hell, in Tibet it's marred by that crazy...tibetan...shamanism...stuff.
zuberkock (2:31:12 AM): So, from my perspective, it's something where you have to cut away the cultural trappings from wherever what you're referencing is from, and take your own meaning.

symphonic rev (2:30:45 AM): but everyone loves tibet. XD
zuberkock (2:31:24 AM): Only because they got like assraped by china, and shit. :d
symphonic rev (2:31:41 AM): it adds to their lovable qualities
symphonic rev (2:31:46 AM): "I'VE BEEN ASSRAPED BY CHINA!"
symphonic rev (2:31:52 AM): "WE LOVE YOU, TIBET!"

zuberkock (2:32:43 AM): DFGHjhkjlk;l';'olvspjvk;djbf
zuberkock (2:33:03 AM): *IS GONNA SPEW CALZONE OUT HER NOSE AND WAKE UP THE NEIGHBORS*

symphonic rev (2:33:10 AM): *GOOD.*
zuberkock (2:33:15 AM): *HATES YOU*
zuberkock (2:33:24 AM): *FREE TIBET!*

symphonic rev (2:33:57 AM): *UNRAPE TIBET!*
zuberkock (2:34:13 AM): omg
zuberkock (2:34:24 AM): *is dying*


current mood: so relevant!

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Saturday, July 2nd, 2005
7:28 pm - three portraits
I like using my camera. :|

Image hosted by Photobucket.com
Two more after the cut.Collapse )

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Wednesday, June 29th, 2005
3:24 pm - Muse art +_+
Zomg. __guttermouth drew a piece with Swallow, Rook, and Bi-Hai. :0

I'm all wibbly, and it's superawesome, and y'all should go check it out and +fav it so it gets daily top favorite on devart! :0

LOOK---->

+___+!!


current mood: :0!! <333

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Sunday, May 29th, 2005
5:17 am - love letter
Dear Internet:

Please stop randomly shitting out a bullshit IP address and preventing me from connecting to you.

It is like a bitch giving a guy a fake phone number.

If you do not cease, I will chop off your penis and feed it to my dog.

Love,
Elle
X O X O X O

P.S. You have stolen my motivation, innocence, and morals. I hate you.



Dear Livejournal:

Why can I only chose two of my icons from your drop-down menu? I am on my second year of paid account. This has been going on for a while. Please stop hurting me.

Love,
Elle
X O X O X O

P.S. Everyone that talks to you is stupid. Myself included.

current mood: >/ ;o;

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